Pots of Fun!

My quest to find my creative bone continues. I'm sure I have one, -  so far no luck, but I'm having a lot of fun trying! There's nothing I like better than being elbow deep in glitter and gunge, and if my efforts so far have not been all that could be desired - well, so what? I'm having a ball, and friends and family are terribly polite about their lumpy, misshapen gifts, so I have no intention of giving up just yet.
Yesterday my search took me to Bunches and Pots in Putney, to try my hand at flower arranging. Well you never know - maybe I'm a master florist at heart! Anyway surely it's just a question of jabbing flowers into a pot - how hard can it be? My lovely friend Sophie Flowers came with me. (I only realised just now how funny that is. How wonderful! That will keep me amused for a while). Anyway, over the course of the morning I discovered there was rather more to the business than I thought.

There were only five of us in the class, which I thought was perfect - though actually it transpired that three people had failed to turn up. Maybe it was because of the snow? Well, it was their loss. Unsurprisingly we were all women, as were the lovely florists training us, and there was a lovely girly atmosphere in the training shed from the beginning, despite the weather.

After a brief safety training we began by dunking our oasis - I love oasis! -  in buckets of water and plant food. "Don't push them into the water! Let them sink by themselves or they'll develop air pockets." I watched as Sophie impatiently stared at her floating oasis, before surreptitiously poking hers to the bottom. What do you know? A tell tale little air pocket. "Oh well." said the phlegmatic Sophie. "I'll just shave it off." Indeed, we were now expected to shave our oasis into the required rounded shape with stanley knives. I hate those things.  Everybody else's was carefully and delicately shaved - mine looked as though it had been gouged by a mad five year old. Never mind, I shall cover it with greenery.

After we had strapped the oasis safely into its pot, here indeed came the greenery.

Because I'm rubbish I can't remember for the life of me what the first lot of beautiful green leaves was called. I really should have written it down but I was far too busy enjoying myself creating a "collar" of fronds to hide the pot and the sides of the oasis. I think maybe it began with R. Anyway it's very lovely, and was made even lovelier when sprayed with magic spray which makes the leaves all shiny! Plant polish!

Before -

After -

Um. Well, you'll just have to take my word from it that it looked A LOT better after the spray, which apparently also helps to preserve the leaves. I learned that when you cut stalks you need to make sure to cut them on the diagonal, and absolutely not on the knuckle, or they don't drink properly.The stalks then have to be pushed about an inch into the oasis, to get at the water.

I remember the name of the next lot of leafy stuff, because it was Eucalyptus! We were told that we could either layer the two types, or just randomly mix them up. Guess which I chose.The contrast of the dark and light leaves was just magical, but I started to worry at this point that my bouquet looked a bit straggly. Especially looking around the table at the neat little pots in front of the others, but they very kindly assured me that mine looked "natural" Hmm. I've been told that about my hair before, and it's never been a good thing. I tried a bit of trimming but it made absolutely no difference, so I gave up and decided it would be transformed once the flowers were in. And here came the flowers!

Glorious roses and lilies- these were our statement pieces. The idea being that we should use maybe four or five to draw the eye in our final bouquet, before the filler flowers were added. I am a sucker for anything orange, so I picked some gorgeously tropical lilies - with buds, I want my arrangement to last as long as possible - and orange roses. Ta da! 

Ok, still messy but better. I thought that the filler flowers would be tiny delicate little things like gypsophila, but no - hot pink carnations, red berries, powder blue thistles - a riot of colour. We were told to use these to cover the rest of the arrangement, to make sure there was no oasis showing. Well there was no chance of that - after getting thoroughly carried away with our greenery and statement flowers the challenge for all of us at this point was to actually find a spare patch of oasis left! Apparently the thing not to do is to keep changing  your mind and moving your flowers once you've poked them in, as the oasis can start to fall apart which would obviously be disastrous. In honour of my marvellous Scottish boyfriend I went for some blue thistles, to make a contrast with my vibrant orange flowers. I think I may have caught a few dubious glances from around the table at this point, but I was far too excited to care and continued blithely ahead with my artistic efforts. 

And here it is. Hurrah! Ok I'm not sure I'd even be able to sell it at a coffee morning, but what the hey, I'm proud of it. 

In the interest of fairness, I feel I have to show you Sophie's stunning bouquet too, though I'd far rather not as you'll only make unfair comparisons. What can I say, she's artistic! 

Perfection achieved, we were given a quick tutorial on how to make a buttonhole or corsage. This was actually a lot harder than the big arrangements, involving a lot of physical exertion, wire and florist tape.

  I had no idea how much work went into these tiny little sprigs of pretty, but I'm genuinely thrilled that I know how to make them. I have every intention of demanding to make them for every wedding I attend in the future, whether they want me to or not. 

So here we all are, exhausted but happy and proud of ourselves. I can thoroughly recommend these courses at Bunches and Pots; the content is just the right level; easy to follow without being patronising, and when you leave you really feel as though you have learned something useful. The ladies are fun, kind and they really know their stuff. They certainly don't skimp on the materials either - straggly or not my arrangement is whopping, eye-catching and I think it is utterly glorious, almost putting my shabby coffee table to shame. What a wonderful way to spend a snowy  Saturday morning. http://www.bunchesandpots.co.uk/

A Thyme and a Plaice

This is really just an extension of a rant I've had before, I'm afraid. From what I see around me every day I fear it is a rant I will still be having when I am sitting in a chair that smells of wee, wearing a tea-cosy and frightening my grandchildren.

My hangup, my issue, my bug-bear, my thorn in the backside is this; why does nobody make an effort to be appropriate any more? Why does everybody seem utterly incapable of studying a situation, assessing it, and then deciding: Ok, on this occasion I should behave/dress/speak like this?

Maybe the problem is the self-indulgent, narcissistic, self-absorbed ethos that society seems to be promulgating at the moment - the "Love me for who I am, Because I'm Brilliant!" mantra. While there was nothing essentially wrong with the original reasoning behind this mentality, devised to prevent bullying and suicides essentially, it has now been adapted and mutated to an unhealthy degree, both sociologically and physically.

"Why should I lose weight, I'm fat and proud!" bellow obese young women on chat shows, to hysterical cheering from the (equally porky) audience. Er...because your lifestyle is eventually going to kill you?

"Snobby boss made me take out my piercings!!" bawls the headline, above a picture of what looks like a deeply wronged robot in eyeliner. Of course she did; that wasn't the image she wanted to promote for her health-food shop. And who can blame her?

"I will never let society constrain me!" declares the man who insists on walking everywhere naked. "Fine," reply the weary constabulary, "We really don't care. Just please, for the love of god, stop walking around in places where there are children?"

 Last week a card circulated at work for everyone to sign, for a man who was retiring abroad. By the time it reached our department, in the corner was scrawled in purple ink "Enjoy the sun you c**t." I'm not a prude, but really, in what universe is that an appropriate thing to write in someone's leaving card???

Maybe, though, it has more to do with parenting, or lack of. Maybe the problem is Mum and Dad's refusal to do anything that would yank little Josh and Tia screaming out of their comfort zone. The result being that they only ever associate with people who are exactly like them, and have therefore no concept of adapting to different situations or audiences.

Today's rant was actually inspired by the Daily Mail - again - and their insistence on printing social media reactions to tragedies. This in itself is irritation enough, but I've started to notice that each quote is repeatedly punctuated by the word (sic), as though each contributor was suffering from a particularly nasty bout of norovirus.

"Darlin (sic) i cant (sic) believe this has happened to you you was such a brite (sic) star an always there 4 me when i was down miss you 4ever babe."

"I never though I would loose (sic) u this way the people who did this have taken the hapiness (sic) from my life rip."

For goodness sake. You are writing about a tragic, solemn event and you can't even be bothered to use spell check? What, did you quickly type this between downloading an album and writing LOL on a friend's facebook status?

It's no wonder our young people are having trouble finding jobs, if, as I suspect, they write their CVs and cover letters this way.

Please, you noisily vocal martyrs, just listen to me; society is not trammeling you, people are not infringing your civil liberties or denying your right to freedom of expression. They are simply questioning your utterly mental decision to behave in a completely inappropriate way in a certain situation.

I am all for originality, freedom of expression and individuality. But the key word here is context. You don't wear a boob tube to the office or red shoes to a funeral, you don't swear at your grandmother or take your toddler to a nightclub, and if you are writing what is effectively a eulogy for someone close to you then please, please use a dictionary.

What you see as buckling under is actually consideration for other people; something which is vanishing faster than birthday cake in a office. Speaking of which, must dash!